B&D or B/D: Bondage and discipline; use
of various methods to restrain someone while administering discipline, usually done by a
“master” to his/her “slave”. (see BONDAGE; DISCIPLINE; BDSM)
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| BBW: Big Beautiful Woman; Referring to women
that may not be their “ideal” weight, but are comfortable with the size that
they are. |
| BDSM: A combination of three terms: BD
(Bondage & Discipline), DS (Dominance & Submission), and SM (Sadism &
Masochism). A wide range of sexual activities having to do with power. |
BEAR CLAW:
Refers to a woman's unusually large
labia (vaginal lips).
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| BI: Bisexual: Versatile(see AC/DC) |
| BI-COMFY: Varies from person to person but
usually used by a woman to state that she is comfortable being around or with a woman who
is BI. A “BI-COMFY” woman may or may not desire to have sex with another woman.
She is merely “comfortable” with the idea of playing with another woman but does
not wish to label herself as “BI-SEXUAL.” |
| BI-CURIOUS: A person who has little or no
experience having sexual relations with a same gendered person but is interested in
finding partners to explore that side of his/her sexuality. |
| BI-FRIENDLY: When used in the description of
a club, BI-FRIENDLY means that the club is open to bisexuals of both genders. When a woman
uses this to describe herself it means she feels no attraction to the same gender but she
has no hang-ups that preclude a bit of friendly fooling around when the situation seems to
call for it. |
| BISENSUOUS: Individual,
generally a lady, who is comfortable with same sex activities, but not aggressively Bi. |
| BISEXUAL, BI: Individual who
enjoys both heterosexual and homosexual relationships. |
| BIZARRE: Unusual sexual desires; Way out. |
| BONDAGE, B&D: A sexual
fetish in which restraints such as ropes, chains, cloth, or leather straps are used to
bind, tie, or hold a participating sexual partner. The person doing the binding is
considered Dominant and the person being bound is considered submissive. |
| BUGGERY: Anal intercourse. |
| BUKKAKE: A Japanese sexual term that refers
to showering a receiver with sperm from one, several or many men. It is always a sperm
shower and, therefore, those on the giving end are always male. |
| CAN ENTERTAIN:
Advertiser willing to invite others to their home for swinging.
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| CAN TRAVEL: Advertiser willing to travel to
your home to swing. |
| CANING: A spanking fetish employing a light
cane usually bamboo or other light wood. |
| CELIBATE: Not participating in sexual activities,
either by choice or circumstance. |
| CHEATING: Sexual activity with others without
spouse's knowledge and or consent. Sometimes referred to as swinging by married men whose
wife "does not understand". |
| CLEAN: Hygienic; Free of sexually transmitted
diseases. |
| CLOSED DOOR: (see CLOSED SWINGING) |
| CLOSED SWINGING:
Couples swing in separate rooms, out of view from one another. The rooms are
almost always in the same house or motel/hotel.
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| CLOSET SWINGER: A person who hides the fact
that he/she is a swinger. (see DISCREET) |
| CORKSCREW: When you place your middle finger
over your index finger and, when penetrating a woman with your fingers, twist your wrist
while making your way in and out. |
| CORRESPONDENCE: Person generally only interested in a
letter or photo exchange. |
| COUPLE: In swinging, a man and a woman. May
be married, living together (cohabitating), committed (on going relationship) or a single
couple dating for swinging purposes; CPL. |
| CPL: Couple. |
Cream pie:
When a man ejaculates
inside a woman’s vagina or anus without using a condom, it’s called a cream pie.
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| CROSS DRESSING: Male/female dressing up and enjoying
feminine/male clothing.. |
| CUCKOLD: The originally meaning is the
husband of a wife who cheats, it has come to mean (more often than not) a husband
who’s wife plays without him and comes home to tell him about it. It can also mean a
husband who watches his wife play with others, or is forced to watch. This can also be
reversed on the wife. Since different people use the word to mean different things, it is
best to ask the people using the word in order to clarify the definition. |
| CULTURE:
Distinctive
ways in which sexual intercourse may be performed, usually named after the country in
which the activity was first recorded or exceptionally popular.
Euphemism
for Fetish, Arts. |
| CUNNILINGUS: To kiss, lick, nibble or suck upon the
female sex organ. |
CYBER SEX: Talking about sex with someone on the Internet, in a
chat room or by email.
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| D&D: Drug &
Disease free, meaning that a couple/person is is STD free and does not use drugs. |
DAISY CHAIN: A daisy chain refers to a group of
more than two sexual partners, stimulating each other at the same time. While Partner A
performs oral sex on Partner B, Partner B performs oral sex on Partner C, who performs
oral sex on Partner D and so on, ultimately resulting in a chain where the last partner is
pleasing the first partner. A daisy chain can be all-female, all-male or a combination of
both sexes.
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DENTAL DAM: A small sheet of latex which acts as a barrier
between the vagina or anus and mouth, used during oral sex.
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DIAPHRAGM: Another name for the cap - a rubber contraceptive in
the shape of a small dish that sits at the neck of the womb to block sperm from reaching a
woman's eggs.
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| DILDO: An artificial penis, usually made of
rubber or plastic, for sexual stimulation of the vagina and sometimes the anus. |
| DIRECTOR: The term used to describe the
principal person who runs or otherwise operates a swing club, generally the owner. A
person who works for the director and is responsible for party or club operation whether
or not for pay, is generally call a Manager. |
DIRTY SANCHEZ: Put very simply, a Dirty Sanchez
is a mustache made of fecal matter that ends up on a woman’s upper lip after a man
has anal sex with her.
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| F: Female. |
| FELCHING: which involves sucking semen
out of any orifice it has been deposited in, usually the anus. |
| FELLATIO: Sexual stimulation of the penis by
the mouth, especially by the tongue and lips and sometimes teeth. |
FEMALE CONDOM: A soft sheath that lines the woman's vagina and
stops any sperm from getting into it.
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| FETISH: Sexual arousal and
pleasure through use of non-sexual objects, actions or non-genital anatomy as a stimulant. |
| FFM or FMF: Threesome involving two women and
one man (see THREESOME) |
FINGERING: When someone uses their fingers to stimulate a
woman's genitals.
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| GAY: A homosexual
person, male or female. A gay female may also be called a Lesbian. |
| GBM: Gay Black Male. |
| GENEROUS: Refers to money for
sex. Not an acceptable practice in the Lifestyle. |
GENITAL EXAMINATION: When a doctor or nurse
examines the vagina, or penis and testicles.
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GENITAL WARTS: Small growths on or around the
genitals caused by a virus.
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| GERMAN CULTURE:
Erotic acts of stern discipline. |
| GIVING HEAD: Oral
sex. |
| GOLDEN SHOWER:
See urolagnia and water sports. |
GONORRHOEA: A sexually transmitted infection, also
known as The Clap. It can be easily treated with antibiotics, but can get serious if it is
left untreated.
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| HARD CORE: a
swing party or swing engagement where sexual interaction in assumed and expected. |
HARD-ON: Another word for an erection.
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| HARD SWINGING: (see FULL SWAP) |
| HEAD: Oral-genital sexual
activity; “Giving head”. (see FRENCH CULTURE; FALLATIO; CUNNILINGUS) |
| HEDONIST: Lives
for pleasure. |
HEPATITIS A-B-C: A disease that affects the liver
which can be caught through sexual activities like rimming, or by sharing infected needles
used to inject drugs.
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HERPES: A virus that can lead to sores on the face
or genitals. It can be passed on through sexual activities, or other close contact. There
is no known cure for Herpes and you will always carry the virus, but it can be treated.
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| MASTER: A
dominant male, usually formally trained in the arts of B & D and/or S & M. |
| MASTER/SLAVE: Participants in a bondage and
discipline sexual relationship (see B&D, BONDAGE, DISCIPLINE) |
MASTURBATE: Touching or stimulating your own or someone else's
genitals for sexual pleasure. Masturbation is a natural and normal way of exploring your
own body. Also called wanking.
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| MATROOM /MATTRESS ROOM: Room set aside for
group sex. Principally an eastern US term (see GROUP ROOM). |
| MBC: Married Black Couple. |
| MBiC: Married Bisexual Couple. |
McGINLEY ROBERT, Ph.D. Founder of The
Lifestyle Organization. The "God Father of Swing". Dr. McGinley was an
aeronautical engineer with a government security clearance when he decided to answer a
"swinger's" advertisement. As it happened, the husband of the couple was on
active duty with the Air Force and his mail was intercepted by military agents. This lead
to an investigation and the subsequent withdrawal of McGinley's clearance. The fact that
the loss of a career might result from a legal sex act between consenting adults was the
catalyst that started Dr. McGinley on a life long quest to end such unjustifiable acts of
discrimination. The Lifestyles Organization began as a small, informal discussion group
that quickly grew to a much larger association of members and regularly scheduled
meetings. Then came Club WideWorld, an on-premise Swing Club. The first national
conference was held in 1973 and since then the annual gathering has grown into the
largest, longest running Lifestyles convention in the world. The TLO!
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| MENAGE A' TRIOS,
THREESOME: Three people, two of one sex, one of the opposite sex in a swinging
interaction. May involve an on-going emotional relationship of the participants. |
| MFM or MMF: Threesome involving two men and
one woman (see THREESOME) |
| MIXED COUPLE: Of different
nationalities. |
| MOOSE KNUCKLES: Male
organs showing through clothes at the crotch. |
| MORESOMES: More than three
people in a swinging interaction. |
MORNING AFTER PILL: Another name for emergency contraceptive
pills. Taken up to 72 hours after unprotected sex the morning after pill prevents
pregnancy.
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| NASCA: The North
American Swing Club Association. An association of swing clubs and magazines, based in
California to promote swinging as the viable and beneficial lifestyle it has become, to
give a national voice to the growing swinging community and to promote the development of
ethical swing clubs everywhere. An excellent organization. |
| NEWBIES: New people in
swinging; First-timers. (Not a bad thing.) |
| NEWCOMERS: Same as Newbies. ( Not
a bad thing.) New people in swinging; First-timers. |
| NONSMOKER: Does not smoke! If
used in a personal ad it generally means only those who do not smoke are sought for
swinging purposes. |
| NON-SWAP: No final exchange
of sexual partners for intercourse, however masturbation and other non-coital activities
between couples generally are accepted. |
| NOVICE:
Beginner/inexperienced. |
| OPEN SWINGING: A
couple or couples swinging with another couple in the same room or bed. |
ORAL SEX: Using the mouth and tongue to pleasure
and stimulate a man's penis or a woman's vagina. There are contraceptives available to
avoid catching STI's through oral sex, such as Dental Dams and condoms. Few actually use
Dental Dams.
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ORGASM: The peak of sexual pleasure, orgasms are
different for everyone and not everyone has an orgasm every time they have sex.
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| ORGY: Sexual
interaction among several men and women in the same room; group sex. |
OUTERCOURSE:
Sexual play that does not involve putting the man's penis in the woman's vagina
Outercourse includes hugging and kissing, as well as massaging and stimulating one
another's bodies and genitals with your hands and mouth and has a lower risk for pregnancy
and infection than intercourse. |
| POLYAMORY: A love relationship
involving more than 2 people. |
PONY PLAY: An extreme form of BDSM, "pony
play" is when the bottom, or the sub, becomes an animal (hence, pony) and no longer
has the responsibilities or privileges that humans have. Also called "bestial
play."
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POV:
In a POV porn the man or woman receiving
sexual gratification holds the camera himself/herself and aims it down at his/her genitals
and the partner(s) who is/are pleasuring him/her. This is in contrast to having a separate
camera crew filming the action. The effect is to give the viewer the sense that he or she
is experiencing the sexual acts he/she is watching as opposed to simply watching others as
a voyeur.
pov also means suck my dick or pussy or just means point of veiw.
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| PRINCE ALBERT: A piercing of the
penis, usually done to increase the pleasure of both the wearer and his partner during
sexual intercourse. |
| PRO: Professional; i.e.
prostitutes or paid escort. |
PROPHYLACTIC: A condom also known as a rubber.
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| S & M: Sadism-masochism,
giving or receiving pain. |
| SAFE: Surgically sterile. |
| SCAT: Refers to the use of excrament/fecal
matter. |
SNOWBALLING: When a woman goes
down on a man, he ejaculates into her mouth and then she spits it back into his mouth
while kissing.
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| SOCIAL: A party; dance or
other gathering usually sponsored by a swing club or magazine, for swingers to meet and
socialize. There is no swinging Per se at a social but privately arranged swinging may
follow. |
| SODOMY: Non-coital, especially anal or oral,
copulation with either an opposite sex or same sex partner. |
| SOFT SWINGING: A social,
erotic swing environment where sexual activity is common and available, but not required
nor assumed. Sometimes used to describe same room swapping up to, but not including
intercourse. Couples that only have intercourse with their own partner. |
| SPLIT ROAST: An act done by
three people (usually a woman and two men, but the concept works with all homosexual males
as well), in which the person in the center is penetrated in the vagina or ass by one
partner, while performing oral sex on the other. |
| SPLOSH: In sexual terms,
splosh refers to a messy fetish that can involve food, such as porridge, or anything
gooey, like mud. |
| S.T.D/S.T.I: Sexually
transmitted diseases or Sexually transmitted infection. |
| STRAIGHT, STR: Non-swinger; A
swinger who is not interested in same sex sexual activity; A person who does not use
drugs; A person who is not bi sexual, gay or lesbian. |
| SWAPPING: Two couples or more
that exchanging partners for sexual activity (can be same room or separate rooms). |
| SWEDISH CULTURE: The
exclusive and talented use of the hands to stimulate sexual arousal; masturbation. |
| SWING CLUB: A swingers club,
generally with private membership that offers social and swinging activities including a
regular schedule of on and/or off premise swing parties. Many also offer educational and
travel activities. Usually there is a membership fee. Party attendance may be restricted
to couples. |
| SWINGING LIFESTYLE: Style of
living with swinging as a major component in the choice of friends, business, social life,
and intimate relationships. |
| SWINGING: Social-Sexual
Relational Recreation among men and women. It is a couple oriented activity but single men
and single women sometimes are involved. An alternative lifestyle for consenting
adults who enjoy social, recreational sexual activities with others, most often on a
couple-to-couple basis, with full knowledge and mutual consent of both partners. It maybe
any combination of men and women. |
| TAN: Tested Antibody Negative for HIV virus.
(AIDS) |
| TESTOSTERONE: A hormone which in men
triggers the development of sperm and a masculine appearance; women's bodies also produce
small amounts of testosterone which may be important to a woman's libido.
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THE MENTHOL: The act of performing oral sex on someone
while or after eating a mint.
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THE MORK: Taken from Mork & Mindy , the popular '70s sitcom
starring Robin Williams, in which Mork had a specific hand gesture greeting, "the
Mork" involves keeping your first two fingers and your last two fingers stuck
together, and separating them. At this point, you would place your index and middle
fingers inside her vagina, and your ring and pinky fingers in her anus.
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| THREESOME: Three people having sex, two of
one sex and one of the other in a swinging encounter. Could be any combination. (see
Menage a Trois) |
